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3 Things Every Boy Needs To Hear

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A lot of time has been spent in my ministry on recruiting men, fathers especially, to volunteer with children’s ministry. Our church has been blessed with a great group of guys who work the nursery, pass out snacks, go on camping trips, drive vans, and lead worship for our kids. It’s a great privilege to see men and women serve alongside each other to reach boys and girls for Christ.
But there is another reason I have for bringing men into our ministry to children. In the community around us and all over the country it seems there is an absence of fathers. A boy may grow up in a two parent household, but the true paternal role is rarely ever seen. Boys have a list of essential needs that only a father or male role model can supply. We need to make sure that they hear:

“I love you”
It’s a basic human need to be loved. We were created to be love and be loved by God. Despite this fact, it can sometimes be a huge hurdle as a man to express love to your sons and an even larger one to the boys that aren’t a part of your household. Yet, the need is still there. Find ways to say it, to show it in the way you live, to be an example of love to even the greatest discipline problems that you face. It will make such a difference and you will begin to see trust form in the eyes of the young men that you serve.

“I’m proud of you”
Often times, it’s easy for the men in children’s Sunday school classes to become the “enforcer of rules” and the major disciplinarian in the class. This is absolutely fine, but we miss out on an opportunity to serve and show Christ-like love by not telling kids the good things that they’re doing. Point out when boys are well-behaved. Take time to mention how good they did during the relay or scripture memory game. Give praise when praise is due. All too often, our boys don’t get the praise they deserve from dads and men in ministry.

“You’re good.”
This is a little different than “I’m proud of you”. I think everyone can benefit from knowing that we have the potential to be virtuous. The statement “You’re good” transcends pride and acknowledges that a boy can have and does have value in your eyes. I’ve seen this simple phrase melt the hearts of the most hardened elementary bullies.

I hope that this list of things that boys need is helpful to you. It’s certainly not exhaustive. Can you think of other ways to reach out and touch the lives of the young men in your church or community? Maybe there are some things that you felt you didn’t have that you needed growing up? Maybe there was a memorable moment in your development that you can look back on and bring to the table as you minister to your sons and the boys under your care.

This was brought to you by a good friend, new blogger named Andy Partington. Andy is the Minister to Preschoolers and Children at First Baptist Minden, Louisiana. You can find out more about him at andypartingtonblog.com

How great it is to be a dad.

Was spending some time this morning thinking about how great it is to be a dad.

* What a great responsibility it is as you have the privilege of building the right foundation into the lives of your kids.
* What great fun it is as you get to play with your kids and their toys while using the excuse it is all for them.
* The sadness that overcomes you when you see one of your kids fall and get hurt
* The joy that comes when you get to be the hero as you bring the band-aid and so gently put it on their ouchie.

Here is a video from Skit Guys that does a good job of showing some more great things about being a dad.

Family business includes Gods word

One of the great treasures God could entrust to any married man and women is the gift of a child, and there is no substitute for a child other than the parents. What are we doing daily to keep this great relationship growing closer together in Christ? Here is just one suggestion in how you could mix God and Life:

1. Relate God’s word to everyday life and activities.

– Use your car time to discuss God’s word or His character. Do this after church, share what you the parent are reading and how that can apply in the world of your child.

– Take walks and discuss the wonder of His creation. Point out the trees, grass, birds, rocks, whatever catches your eye.

– Let your children see how you handle crisis that may arise. It is better to be strategic about this because they will see even if you don’t want them to.

– Discuss their day at the end of the day and share with them how they acted in Christ like ways. You may even share with them your day and have them pick out times you acted Christ like and times that maybe you did not.

Have fun during all of this as you build the habit in the family to see how family business must include Gods word.

Gods word is family business

One of the greatest treasures God entrust to any man or women is the gift of a child, and there is no substitute for a child other than the parents. What are we doing to keep these great relationships growing together in Christ? Here are just a few suggestions:

1. Relate God’s word to everyday life and activities.

– Use your car time to discuss God’s word or His character.

– Take walks and discuss the wonder of His creation

– Let your children see how you handle crisis that may arise. It is better to be strategic about this because they will see even if you don’t want them to.

– Discuss their day at the end of the day and share with them how they acted in Christ like ways.

2. Plan structured times of Bible teaching for the family.

– Choose a time that works for everyone

-Keep the Bible age appropriate.

– Encourage kids to take part. This time should not always be mom or dad preaching to their kids for 20 minutes. Remember, kids learn best by doing.

3. Vary what you do during your family devotional time.

– Collect missionary cards (you know those cards that they give out that look like business cards and they want you to put them on your refrigerator and think bout them etc.). Well put these cards in a basket and at the end of the day have your child pull out a card and pray for the person who is on the card you pulled out, pray for the place they are a missionary to.

– Vary the amount of time you have family devotion. Sometimes family devotions can stretch out to long.

– When you go and pick up your child from kids church, stop asking if they had “fun” and start digging into what they “learned.” Use these lessons to continue to teach them throughout the week.

Have fun, and make sure you take this time.

My first blog with my new WordPress site

It has been so long since I had a new blog, (my other one which is now turning 100% church directed is at www.take2ministries.com ) that I forgot the pressure of the first post. I also forgot my way around a WordPress blog as well.

But with all that said and with some thought into what I wanted the first post to be on, I think I have it now. This particular blog is going to about things that I enjoy like: Family, Kids Ministries, Kidology, Leadership, Books, Coffee, Toys and gadgets, all things Mac and stuff like that. There is one thing that all these things have in common, it is, I am Grateful for each and everyone of these things.

Now there it is, the first post is going to be about Gratefulness. One thing in particular actually that I am grateful for. This person is actually the reason behind the setting up of this blog. This person has been a friend to me in good times and in not so good times. This friend already has a great blog site at The Kidologist , and he is also the creator of another great web site that truly helps out those who minister to kids, an you can see it at Kidology.org.

Yes this first blog post I wanted it to be about my friend Karl Bastian. Here is a guy who cares so much and so deeply about people that with the extremely limited time he has he not only creates and runs all the above, but, he also has created a time for men called: “Yosemite Summit‘ which is 5-day personal sabbatical for male children’s pastors, situated in the heart of one of the most spectacular National Parks in the United States. It’s “The Unconference for Children’s Pastors!” But wait! That is not all. He has then created another time for women called: “Unbridled” which is a Kidology women’s retreat at 3P Ranch in Circleville, Ohio. Designed for children’s pastors, it’s a getaway from the business of ministry!

I could really go on and on, but, the bottom line for me is, I wanted this blog post to be about the friend who has really become a true friend for me and a confidant as well. Karl, I am so grateful for you and your family and your friendship toward me and my family. Thanks I feel are words that really don’t carry enough weight to express my gratitude toward you and the impact you have had in my life and my families life.

I thought it was only appropriate to have my first post as a Thank You to you. Plus this combined a good few things that I enjoy into one post like: Kidology, You, Mac computers (seeing that you are also a mac-ite as myself along with gadgets and all).

Lastly, just again want to say: Thanks God for bringing such a great friend into my life, I look forward to what all Gd has planned.

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