The term of leader is so widely used and misunderstood. If you are a children’s pastor and have the title of “Children’s Pastor” or “Family Pastor” or whatever the leadership title is, then please consider the following.
You must have an honest understanding of who you are, what you know, and what you can do. Also, note that it is the followers, not the leader or someone else who determines if the leader is successful. If they do not trust or lack confidence in their leader, then they will be uninspired. To be successful you have to convince your followers, not yourself or your superiors, that you are worthy of being followed.
Too often I have seen people with the title of “leader” not really a leader. They are managers of bad situations at best. Even that management title will elude them over the long haul due to they won’t be able to manage effectively the chaos that they are the cause of due to ineffective leadership and management.
Some reasons why the ineffectiveness? They don’t grasp that different people need different styles of leadership. For example, a new volunteer requires more supervision than an experienced master teacher type volunteer. A person who lacks motivation requires a different approach than one with a high degree of motivation. You must know your people! To know your people you must create ways to get out and walk the halls, greet at the front of the church, rub elbows with those who come to your church not just in your children’s ministry. I know I can hear it now, “I can’t get out and do any of this because I have no volunteers to help so I can get out.”
A fundamental starting point is caring more for the people than you do a position they can fill. When they know this about you things will begin to change. Next, develop a good understanding of human nature, such as needs, emotions, and motivation. You must come to know your congregations be, know, and do attributes.
The basis of good leadership is honorable character and selfless service to your organization. In your congregations eyes, your leadership is everything you do that affects the organization’s goals and their well-being. Respected leaders concentrate on (U.S. Army, 1983):
* what they are [be] (such as beliefs and character)
* what they know (such as job, tasks, and human nature)
* what they do (such as implementing, motivating, and providing direction).