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Top 20 Improvements I’ve Made Due to Kidology Coaching

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Every weekend our churches are filled with those who have the responsibility of ministering to our children, connecting with and resourcing the parents, equipping those who are also responsible to help reach children and the list of responsibilities just goes on and on.

You may call these wonderful gifts to your churches: Children’s pastors, Children’s directors, Kidmin ministers etc.. With the responsibility that these people carry out many churches have figured out that it is wisdom to make sure they are equipped, developed, trained and ready, to carry out all that they are expected to do with excellence. These expectations and responsibilities have evolved beyond what our colleges are preparing leaders for.

It is this group of children’s pastors that I have had the privilege of being part of for 22+ years. For the last 3-4 years I have also had the privilege of formally coaching those in this group.

Here is a top 20 list that Andy Partington, one of these great children’s pastors have put together as he reflected over his last year of coaching with me before he went into our graduate coaching program.

1) I am seen as a pastor and parental help to the families in my
congregation more and a facilitator of children’s programming less.
2) I have put in place a volunteer training schedule that doesn’t burn
out volunteers while still maintaining growth.
3) I use my time intentionally.
4) I integrate Gospel presentations into each ministry setting.
5) My goals are clearly defined and communicated.
6) I know how to appreciate and affirm my team: My team clearly
knows that they are a special part of our ministry.
7) My meetings are awesome: Each meeting has a purpose and flow.
If it didn’t we wouldn’t have it.
8) I know what the acronym S.M.A.R.T stands for and I now live by it.
9) I know that I can manage tasks instead of time.
10) I know how to present good news and bad news to my fellow
staff members.
11) I now have a ministry team instead of a committee.
12) I now work with leaders instead of workers.
13) I know how to have fun with my staff and with the kids that I
minister too.
14) My “bag of tricks” is open to other people in ministry. What I’ve
learned just could help someone else and I’m glad to share.
15) I delegate. I wasn’t designed to do 100% of tasks. There is 20%
out there with my name on it.
16) My ministry is geared to do that one thing that we were meant to do.
17) I know how to help people find their “one thing”.
18) Multiplication isn’t just for grade school math classes. It’s a regular
process in my ministry.
19) I listen to parents.
20) I know how to learn from anyone I come into contact with.

If you would like to enjoy more growth personally and with your ministry I want to invite you to join coaching or a new avenue that many will find useful as well online training for your team. It’s not just your future that depends on it.

Starting smart so it doesn’t end foolishly

image428280100.jpgAnyone who knows me knows that I enjoy studying success and failures of people, businesses, churches and more. While keeping an eye on these topics I have read how in the past couple decades, 30% of Fortune 500 CEOs have lasted less than 3 years. According to a Harvard Business Review, 2 out of 5 new CEOs fail in their first 18 months on the job. It appears that the major reason for the failure has nothing to do with competence, or knowledge, or experience, but more with over bearing pride, ego and a leadership style out of touch with modern times.

One reason this may be happening could be the Leadership vacume that creates how leaders see themselves and how others see them. This is an area leaders live in because they are the leader and no one wants to truly speak openly with them. This vacume can be career limiting. The bigger the vacume, the more resistance there is to change. It also makes it difficult to create a positive organizational culture where openness and honesty are encouraged. Candid, constructive feedback can help a leader grow, and often leaders don’t get that feedback from their teams.

Research shows 82% of newly appointed leaders derail because they fail to build partnerships with subordinates and peers.

Sydney Finkelstein, author of Why Smart Executives Fail, researched several spectacular failures during a six year period. He concluded that these CEOs had similar deadly habits:

Habit 1: They see themselves and their companies as dominating their environment. Warning sign: A lack of respect for others .

Habit 2: They identify too closely with the company, losing the boundary between personal and corporate interests. Warning sign: They define themselves by their job.

Habit 3: They think they are the only ones that have all the right answers. Warning Sign. They have few followers.

Habit 4: They ruthlessly eliminate anyone who isn’t completely supportive. Warning Sign: A lot of subordinates are either fired or quit.

Habit 5: They are obsessed with photos, speeches, appearances and publications in which they represent the company. Warning Sign: They blatantly seek out media.

Habit 6: The underestimate obstacles. Warning Sign: Excessive hype and little substance.

Habit 7: They stubbornly rely on past achievements and successes. Warning sign: They consistently refer to what worked for them in the past.

There are no universal ways to prevent failures, except perhaps to be alert for the warning signs. To be aware of History so we do not need to repeat it.

Good leaders make people around them successful. They are passionate and committed, authentic, courageous, honest and reliable. Leaders need a confidante, a mentor, or someone they can trust to tell the truth about their behavior. They rarely get this due to the vacume stage that I have mentioned.

Coaches and Mentors can help leaders reduce or eliminate their blind spots and be open to constructive feedback, not only reducing the likelihood of failure, and premature burnout, plus also provide an atmosphere in which the Leader can express fears, failures and dreams.

There are many great mentorship you can join out there, but if you want to know of a specific one that I know gets results it is Kidology Coaching.

Why Smart Executives Fail and What We Can Learn From Them

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Clarity equals Simplicity

Through my God given privilege of serving as a Kidology Coach, I get the opportunity to help assist many children’s leaders to clear up and simplify things that have been slowing them down or hindering them from being everything they feel God has for them. Sometimes it is as basic as helping them to see how: “Clarity is the ability of the process to be communicated and understood by the people”. Bottom line on this is that the people and the leadership should know exactly how the ministry is structured to move people toward spiritual maturity.

Understanding always precedes commitment.

If people are to embrace and participate in their ministry process, they must be able to understand and internalize it. To internalize the process, they must first grasp it. Clarity is then absolutely essential!

A lack of clarity ultimately leads to confusion and complexity because there is no coherent direction. When there is no direction, people will assume a direction or invent one, which then causes ministries to move aimlessly off course.

Here are some starter questions I suggest the protégées to ask themselves and find their answers to:

1. Do you feel that people are creating their own directions?

2. Do you feel that you do not have the best support of the people in accomplishing what you feel God wants to do in your church?

3. Do you ever feel that people are not growing the way you feel they should, but you feel you are being faithful in teaching and preaching?

Depending on their answers we may look to see if they are having a clarity problem. Maybe you don’t have a well-defined process set up for moving people toward spiritual maturity? Maybe you do have a process but it is not really known by your people or the leaders in your church? Maybe it is too complex of a process? Maybe it is to busy of a process or it is to scattered?

Check your Clarity out with others in your church, not just with you and your spouse.

Look at everything you have in print and make sure it all says the same message, shows the same direction, and are very clean and simple. Set up times to speak with your workers and ask them if they are clear in why you do what you do and if they are clear in what you do and how you do it. Ask the kids in your ministry and ask them the same questions.

You may find that if left to yourself you can unknowingly make things very complex. You can allow everything from too many different ministries taking place, to the many different announcements you allow to be broadcast, and more, will make your process to complex and you will lose your clarity and simplicity.

My first blog with my new WordPress site

It has been so long since I had a new blog, (my other one which is now turning 100% church directed is at ) that I forgot the pressure of the first post. I also forgot my way around a WordPress blog as well.

But with all that said and with some thought into what I wanted the first post to be on, I think I have it now. This particular blog is going to about things that I enjoy like: Family, Kids Ministries, Kidology, Leadership, Books, Coffee, Toys and gadgets, all things Mac and stuff like that. There is one thing that all these things have in common, it is, I am Grateful for each and everyone of these things.

Now there it is, the first post is going to be about Gratefulness. One thing in particular actually that I am grateful for. This person is actually the reason behind the setting up of this blog. This person has been a friend to me in good times and in not so good times. This friend already has a great blog site at The Kidologist , and he is also the creator of another great web site that truly helps out those who minister to kids, an you can see it at

Yes this first blog post I wanted it to be about my friend Karl Bastian. Here is a guy who cares so much and so deeply about people that with the extremely limited time he has he not only creates and runs all the above, but, he also has created a time for men called: “Yosemite Summit‘ which is 5-day personal sabbatical for male children’s pastors, situated in the heart of one of the most spectacular National Parks in the United States. It’s “The Unconference for Children’s Pastors!” But wait! That is not all. He has then created another time for women called: “Unbridled” which is a Kidology women’s retreat at 3P Ranch in Circleville, Ohio. Designed for children’s pastors, it’s a getaway from the business of ministry!

I could really go on and on, but, the bottom line for me is, I wanted this blog post to be about the friend who has really become a true friend for me and a confidant as well. Karl, I am so grateful for you and your family and your friendship toward me and my family. Thanks I feel are words that really don’t carry enough weight to express my gratitude toward you and the impact you have had in my life and my families life.

I thought it was only appropriate to have my first post as a Thank You to you. Plus this combined a good few things that I enjoy into one post like: Kidology, You, Mac computers (seeing that you are also a mac-ite as myself along with gadgets and all).

Lastly, just again want to say: Thanks God for bringing such a great friend into my life, I look forward to what all Gd has planned.

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